People (strangers, mostly) constantly ask me questions when I’m out and about with Shirley, “How old is she? Oh, she’s 18 months old? She’s so little! Was she a preemie?” or “is she walking yet? I bet you’re chasing her all over, huh?” I don’t mind these kinds of questions, really. But I am often unsure how to answer them. Do they want the long answer, or the short answer? I could just say “No, she wasn’t a preemie. And no, she isn’t walking.” Or I could go into detail about her medical condition and how we really have no idea why she’s so small or why she’s not walking yet (or crawling, for that matter). I mean, we know that her muscles are weak, that’s why her gross motor skills are behind. We also know that she struggled with eating her entire first year. But what we don’t know is WHY her muscles are weak, or WHY she has feeding and weight gain issues.

Rewind to the very beginning of the year. I had begun questioning, just to myself, why Shirley’s gross motor development was so slow. I mean I KNEW that delays were common for kids like her… but were other heart babies with her similar histories as weak as she was? Were they as bendy and flexy as she was? Did they have as hard of a time eating as she did? Were they all as TINY as she was? So, I started digging. I asked questions on my heart parent groups on Facebook, consulted therapists, read blogs and articles from medical journals. These are really hard questions to answer because every cardiac kiddo’s story differs from the next, especially ones with Shirley’s condition. One thing I did find was that most children who have the same struggles as Shirley (heart defect, extreme low tone, and feeding issues simultaneously) are also often diagnosed with a genetic disorder. At birth Shirley was tested for the genetic disorders that are most commonly associated with her heart defect, but they came back negative. Are those the only possible disorders she could have, you ask? Absolutely not. But, at the time, her team didn’t see a need for further genetic testing.

At long last, I brought it up with both her GI doctor and cardiologist. They both agreed that her low tone, short stature, and difficulty gaining weight were enough for a referral back to the Seattle Children’s genetics clinic. Especially taking into account that she has only had one heart surgery, and never went through a period where her body lacked oxygen. We were referred in April, but since there are not really any “genetic emergencies” appointments are being scheduled out 9-12 months. So, we’re still waiting. 

Shirley had her 18-month check-up last week. She weighed in at 18lbs 2.5oz, which means she’s gained a pound since her cardiology appointment last month. But, she has only gained 2lbs total since her 12-month check-up (most of which was gained in the last 3 months). Her pediatrician was also puzzled by her slow physical development and began immediately bouncing around different ideas regarding a possible genetic component to her diagnosis. When he heard how long the wait was for us to get into the SCH genetics clinic he decided to put in a referral of his own to the Mary Bridge genetics clinic in hopes that they would be able to get us in sooner. We're scheduled to see them next month.

Let me be clear on this, we are not fearful about the possibility of Shirley having a genetic condition; it is not a source of anxiety for us. We are purely interested in finding out more about what’s going on in her little body so that we can better support her growth and development. In addition, many genetic disorders bring along with them other potential medical issues that we wouldn’t know to look for without a proper diagnosis.

So, we wait. While we wait we’re focusing on the task at hand. We are spending our time teaching Shirley to feed herself, working with her therapists and practicing her gross motor skills. We’re also trying to figure out how to treat her like the 18-month old (non-toddling) toddler that she is. Our girl looks and moves like a baby but she thinks and understands like a toddler. If we aren’t careful about interacting with her at a level that is developmentally appropriate for her age, her cognitive progress may just slow down to match her physical development. In other words, she will live up to our expectations of her. We have our work cut out for us... in the very best way. I have never felt more fulfilled in my life. 

Shirley is a precious gift. We have been thoroughly enjoying every single stage with her. We often ask each other “How did we get so lucky to be her parents?” 

Keep our sweet girl in your prayers while we search for better ways to support her as she grows.

I've included some fun pictures from the last couple weeks. 

- Brianna

Home Sweet Home


We are finally home! Our wonderful family and friends cleaned our house from top to bottom. There will be a lot of adjusting but it will be good. I could go on and on but I think that keeping it short is best.

We are thankful to have Shirley home. Thank you all for your continued prayers and support. This is only the beginning of Shirley's Grand Adventure! 

Tonight we will sleep in our own bed with Shirley under the same roof. 


Meds and More


Shirley started a new medication to help manage her heart failure long term. Digoxin has been working well so far and she will continue to receive it for now but she was given carvedilol for long term use. You can read up on it if you want but the hope here is that with years of use it will help her heart function return to normal by a process call "reverse cardiac remodeling." I have no idea how this actually works but there are multiple studies that show heart function returning as a result. We really like the primary heart failure doc we have had so far and she is very hopeful in regard to Shirley's condition. The first time we met her she talked so much about nutrition and breastfeeding that I thought she was a nutritionist. It wasn't until halfway thorough our conversation that I started to question how this nutritionist knew so much about meds and heart failure. 


We are almost out of here! As of today are expected discharge date is 3/29! That is this Wednesday! Brianna and I are almost all trained up on Shirley's daily routine! She will be going home on lots of meds that we will have to administer multiple times a day and with a NG tube. We have learn how to place the NG tube also. It's really not a fun process getting a tube from a child's nose to the their stomach but it can be done with tears and crying from both parties. Shirley isn't taking her feeds entirely by breast or bottle as we hoped she would but we will continue to work on that at home and she will be off the NG tube soon enough. We sat through infant and child CPR today and it seems very ironic sitting there learning chest compressions while thinking about sternal precautions for your child that just had OHS! I laughed to myself a few times. We are very excited to bring little Shirley home.

Robbery Update

There was some initial communication with TPD in the days following the break in but it never amounted to anything. I have been leaving messages every now and then and I tried one more time today. I was able to talk with someone and they put me in contact with a detective and someone from forensics! Unfortunately, I don't think they will find much evidence in our home now that it's been nearly a month and a lot of stuff has been picked up and cleaned since then. Who knows? 





Today wasn't very eventful in regard to Shirley's medical condition but it was a great day. We now have a room all to ourselves (neighbors went home) and Shirley's bed gets natural light for the first time. Out of the blue the nurse asked us if we wanted to take Shirley on a walk! Shirley got to take a stroll around the hospital, made a Starbucks run (there are three in SCH), and went outside into the fresh air for the first time! 

This is the kind of update that I'm thinking will be better for Instagram. 

The natural light really brings out Shirley's highlighted hair as well as her blue eyes. Not sure if either of those traits will last but they sure do make her look cute right now.


Practice Makes Perfect


Shirley has been getting consistently better at eating by mouth. Her feeds are so condensed now that what she used to take in over the course of three hours she now receives in 30 minutes. The OT/PT team has been working hard on her oral skills and three times a day Shirley eats by bottle, if she is up for it. The last three days have been hit and miss as far as her actually getting a sizable portion by mouth but today we saw some real progress. She drank 25ml from her first bottle this morning and 35ml from her bottle this afternoon. The OT that swung by this afternoon was shocked and was probably more excited than we were. It was difficult to get her to take 10-12ml by bottle the last few days and even those feeds were celebrated. If Shirley can keep it up she won't need to go home with an NG tube placed. We are confident that she can do it.

Next Steps

Thankfully there hasn't been much to report concerning Shirley's condition in the last few days and we hope that is a continuing trend. Shirley is still monitored very closely and tomorrow is lab day... not her best days in the past. Shirley is very hard to get blood from for whatever reason so let's hope tomorrow goes smoothly. Labs will tell us a lot about how she is responding to her medication and if it is going to be something viable for us to continue at home. The doctors expect that it will be. She will be starting another heart failure drug in the next few weeks that will also be a longterm addition. Our days here are coming to a close and you can almost feel it. The D word was used this morning (discharge), but with no definitive date attached. There is a lot to be done before we can walk out the doors with Shirley. Brianna and I will both have to complete infant CPR classes and Shirley will have to pass the "carseat challenge." The test involves securing Shirley in her car seat while in the hospital room hooked up to all the monitors. Shirley has to prove that she will be able to handle the trip home. Two hours seems like an awful long time to have her in there but I think it will go fine. She sleeps so much that I can't see her being awake for the majority of it anyway. Hopefully I don't have to eat my words.


Yep, I'm so hopelessly obsessed with taking pictures of Shirley that I've decided to take it to the next level: Instagram. That is only a part of the reason. Although I plan on keeping this site and blog updated, I may start to spread them out over a few days or weeks. A lot of people follow Shirley's progress and Instagram may be a better way to do short updates. Shirley will be in and out of the hospital and cardiology clinics her entire life and we hope that documenting it will provide hope to other families that find themselves in similar circumstances. We have been greatly encouraged by others and we can only hope to do the same. 




One Month

Fast Month

Today marks a month with our little Shirley. It was a quick month, literally and figuratively. February 23rd to March 23rd is exactly 4 weeks. I know there are some people that calculate months in terms of weeks but I can't really make any sense of that. Children born in February on a non-leap year have a short first month (4wks) but after that it's simply back to however many days make up a calendar month. I know there are people out there that say pregnancy is ten months but just because it's 40wks doesn't make it ten months... The same logic would yield a 13 month calendar year... Seems more than a little fishy to me. Sorry for all this nonsense. It really has seemed to have gone by quickly for us. Hard to believe that we checked in 4wks ago with a cone-headed little Shirley. It has been such an amazing month! So many blessings, so much love. We have many people to thank.

Easy Days

I hope every day from here on out is as uneventful and enjoyable as the last few have been. We feel an awful lot like average parents. We didn't get much sleep the last couple of nights due to the simple fact that little Shirley needed a little attention. We aren't the "cry it out" type so we just took her cries as wonderful excuses to get up and soothe her back to sleep. She is a very cuddly little baby and we are very cuddly parents. It works out well! Now that we are in the step down unit there is much less supervision by nurses and the docs only come in periodically to look at Shirley. Brianna and I pretty much get to hold Shirley all day long, give her bottle feeds, change her diapers, and dote.


I thought reading was going to be the pastime most associated with our stay here but it hasn't. This blog has certainly taken up much of my time and I'm very thankful for it. Also, Brianna and I go on three dates a day: breakfast, lunch, and dinner. We are spending so much time together and we love it. Before Shirley was born we pretty much did everything together besides go to our separate places of work. For the last 4 weeks we haven't spent more than two or three hours apart and the vast majority of days we don't spend more than 5 minutes apart in a 24 hour period. Brianna and I truly are the best of friends and we rarely look for opportunities to "get some space." Lots of time is spent talking with Shirley, taking every opportunity to bond with this sweet girl. I must admit though that we have binged on rerun episodes of "Forensic Files" late at night while Brianna pumps. In the last few days I have been glued to the senate confirmation hearings for Judge Gorsuch! It obviously hasn't been all roses and butterflies though. There have been some very difficult days but they have been sandwiched between the best of days as well. We often reflect about being on cloud 9 while walking the hallways and hours later be in the "depths of despair"  contemplating the unknown. As cliche as it may be, I wouldn't trade these days for anything.


The perspective shift, for myself, has been very noticeable after Shirley's birth. I have always loved children and my mom may know best how much I have coveted the idea of family, marriage, and having children of my own. I used to love babysitting for friends from my previous church community and feel very fortunate to have had the trust of those wonderful couples! So many hours with those cute little babies just made me want my very own. It seems like a long time coming though, considering that in my early teens I often thought and hoped I would be a father by 20. I may have been nearly 10 years late according to my own schedule but it was worth the wait. I also may have scared more than one woman away because they thought I was too serious about getting married, Brianna included. I also used to have thoughts about what my children would be like and who they would become. When Brianna was 20wks pregnant, we found out about Shirley's condition as well as the possibility of her being born with a genetic disorder called, among a host of other names, 22Q. Shirley has been tested a couple of times for 22Q and each has been negative for the syndrome. Once during her pregnancy via Brianna's blood and the other after Shirley was born. The prenatal test is about 80% accurate and we thought about the results often. We welcomed the idea of Shirley with a genetic disorder but we were uncertain about how it would affect her life and, if I'm honest, how it would affect mine. The night Shirley was born though put all of that to rest and it wasn't because of some genetic screening result. It was very simply put to rest by Shirley herself and the love of a parent that, hitherto, I had never fully understood. While sitting in a recliner with Shirley in my arms I began to cry thinking about her and saying to myself, "I don't care what defects or disorders you may have, I just love you." Her second screening came back negative a few days later and there was no sigh of relief, just us saying, "ok, thanks" to the doctor reporting it. Shirley's full screen is still not complete and there are other possibilities as far as her genetics are concerned but they don't worry us. As we walk the halls of this hospital there are children with every kind of condition imaginable. Now, more than ever, I don't see them defined by their genetics or whatever it may be, I simply see beautiful children and their proud parents. I look forward to what else being a parent may change in me.

Last Thing

A wonderful woman contacted me about a week or so ago and said she had heard about Shirley through the American Heart Association (AHA) where she works. Her name is Kami Sutton and she too has CHD and has had upwards of 20 procedures here at SCH. Because of her fundraising efforts the CICU is named in her honor. We had actually heard about her after Shirley's surgery when our nurse was talking about caring for the woman whom the unit was named for. Shirley and Kami shared the same nurse nearly 14 years apart! To have Kami contact us a few days later was very special to us. Kami sent Shirley a few crocheted items made by volunteers of the AHA here in the Puget Sound and also a wonderfully crafted card with a hand written note. We continue to be in awe of the support we have received and the people who have encouraged us out of the kindness of their hearts. The card made our day, thanks Kami!



Long Night and a Short Day.

Possible Infection

Shirley had a long and eventful night. We were up until midnight and decided to stay the night here sensing that it was going to be an active one. Around 3am Shirley spiked another fever just over 101. They pulled all the stops this time.  It was pretty much non-stop activity from 3 to 8am. Shirley wasn't the most cooperative and just getting an IV placed took a considerable amount of time. Two nurses and a few pokes later they were finally able to get into a vein that would draw. They swabbed her nose and throat and tried to place a catheter for a urine sample. The urine sample was also very hard to come by. They wanted to start a broad spectrum antibiotic at 6am but didn't want to begin until after they had urine. One more try for a catheter at 8am worked out well and got enough to send to the lab. Her nose and throat swabs came back negative but her blood did show very high levels of c-reactive protein (CRP) which is an inflammation marker and also a good indicator of a possible infection. Still waiting on the full blood results but the initial urine sample came back positive for leukocytes and protein. Lets hope that it is as simple as a UTI. The complete urine and blood results will hopefully single something out. Until then, she is on a very broad spectrum antibiotic that will be changed out for something more specific once her results are in. Thanks for praying for our little girl.

Short Day

I wrote the first half of this post at 10am, it's now 9pm and I'm going to try to finish. Shirley responded almost immediately to the antibiotics. Her fever subsided and she slept the majority of the day. She was pretty much crying for 6 straight hours this morning so you can imagine how exhausted she was. There was a slim chance that she could have had an infection in her heart tissue and an echo revealed nothing. There was also the possibility that her heart was failing which could cause the temp and tachycardia but the echo showed no signs of decreased function beyond what she already has. Although her complete labs are not back yet they are pretty confident that she has a UTI and that the first dose of antibiotics hit it pretty hard. They are going to continue antibiotics for 48 hours. 

Family and Friends

We almost canceled Shirley's visitors today but her Uncle John, Aunt Tish and baby cousin Lillie Belle traveled from San Diego to see her. She was either going to get worse from her infection or get better and we thought either way they should just come see the little girl. Some family friends also stopped by to say "hello." We had a few games of cribbage, doted on Shirley, and ate dinner.


Last night was scary but the nurses and doctors taking care of Shirley are amazing. They also let me be involved in almost every situation. I had a role throughout the entire night/morning and didn't want to be anywhere but next to Shirley. It was very difficult but it was also another good experience. There was nothing we could do to actually make Shirley better so we prayed... a lot. Last night and this morning proved to be the most difficult day for me. Surgery was a difficult time but it wasn't as scary. Surgery seemed so much more controlled and the outcomes so well explained. Last night was just tense, waiting on answers, and praying that it wasn't a worst case scenario. The sadness of thinking that her best days are behind us and that it was possible that these events could be the end. Those are the scariest thoughts I've ever had and it felt like a heavy weight on my chest. It's strange to me, but for whatever reason when I think of losing Shirley what scares me the most is not being able to look her into her eyes and tell her I love her. Her eyes have such a unique grip on me that I can't bear the thought of not being able to stare into them. 

As I write this now Shirley is sleeping peacefully in her bed as if nothing ever happened and we went through the day almost as if last night was just a very bad dream.

Here are some pictures from this evening just after her bath. She looks like the Shirley we know so well, alert and content.


Digging In

New Doctors

Along with the physicians that care for Shirley in the CICU a team of doctors that primarily work with "heart failure" have been brought on to consult in her everyday care. Shirley has had poor heart function since being taken off milrinone (the drug used to help the heart contract). Technically speaking there is a better phrase to describe her current state: Heart Failure. That sounds very bad and of course its not great but don't freak out. Heart failure is a very broad term used to describe the symptoms of a patient, in our case Shirley. She has been in a state of heart failure from birth. The large structural defects of her heart that were repaired during surgery can often times be the cure for neonatal congestive heart failure (CHF) but in Shirley's case her leaky valve combined with her heart not contracting with greater force are holding her back. Shirley's case isn't that severe, mind you, she is still functioning rather well given her issues. The doctors will simply be monitoring her and providing medications that will hopefully help her heart to work more efficiently. There still is some hope that her heart will rebound and function well enough to not need medication but now two and a half weeks post surgery they would have expected to see it already. It is highly likely that she will be in some state of heart failure until her valve is replaced.


This one is for the budding botanists out there. Shirley is starting a medication today to help address her minor case of heart failure. It's a drug called digoxin (wiki is a great source for this kind of stuff) and it's from a pretty little flowering plant called Digitalis, commonly known as foxglove. I was intrigued today when I found this out because I can remember being a child and having my mom tell us to not touch or play with foxglove while we tramped around in the woods. I knew it was poisonous and that it had something to do with it's effect on the heart but not much more than that. Crazy to think that the little plant we weren't allowed to play with as kids is now the same thing being used to treat our daughter's condition. There are many treatments for heart failure and digoxin is only one of many possible things they may try. The history of the drug goes way back and it's actually an interesting read. Hopefully she will respond well to it and won't need something more intense like milrinone. Digoxin is administered orally so it is a drug that can be given easily while at home if need be.

Rough Evening

Shirley is having a rough evening. I wrote the majority of this post earlier today but never got around to publishing it because Shirley started to get very fussy while I was holding her around 5pm. Shirley is a pretty relaxed baby so a few unprovoked fits put myself and her nurse on edge. They took her temp and it came back quite feverish at 101 and her heart rate jumped up between 180 and 190 BPM (she had been in the 130s and 140s all day). She was pretty upset for about 4 hours. They used some ice packs to cool her down and the doctors came to check her out. They are still waiting on the lab results to rule out infection. They also took a good look at her stomach to make sure there weren't any issues there. She has calmed down a little bit since but it is now 10pm and 5 minutes haven't passed the whole evening without some sort of unprovoked fit. Honestly they are hoping that it's just really bad gas that she is having difficulty passing but it's an unknown currently. The fever has come down which is a good sign but its also just a little strange.

Long Day

It wasn't a bad day but it wasn't a great day either. Shirley got to meet some new people today when my cousins came by to visit and also some aunts and uncles on Brianna's side. Today was the first day the term "heart failure" was used and that isn't really something that sits easy with anyone but they are confident that it will be manageable. Minus her fits and some issues this evening Shirley is still looking pretty comfortable and not too stressed on the whole. Hopefully she will have an uneventful night and be back to normal by the morning. The first half of the day went by very quickly but the last 6 hours have dragged on trying to calm little Shirley and being fixated at the live stream of vitals that is ever present on her monitor. Please continue to keep Shirley in your prayers. Now that the (very poorly named) "heart failure" team is monitoring Shirley we will be extending our stay in the CICU until they find a medication that works well for her overall. There is also the possibility that her heart starts to kick butt and pump like mad but they aren't waiting to find out.

Sorry if this post is all over the place but its just been a very interesting day. Here is a picture of Brianna feeding little Shirley her bottle this morning. I can't begin to relate to you how impressed I have been with how she has handled these extraordinary circumstances.




Pinch Us

Dream Land

None of us are wearing green and we feel like we are living in a dream state. Our current reality is a lot like a dream with unbelievable twists and turns, the occasional terrifying scenario, a strange environment, and a very cute baby. Seriously though, there are times this all feels like a dream. Maybe it's that we have, more or less, been in a 15x20ft box for three weeks putting us in a kind of non-drug induced trip. Well, maybe Shirley's is drug induced... but we are clean!  Shirley is our little dream child as well. Although there is certainly a sense of what things could be like with an average child we couldn't be happier with the not so average child we were given. We still hold to the same belief we held before she was born, that is: Shirley has CHD for a reason beyond what is material and understandable. We also believe that no matter the outcome, Shirley's life is meant to bring good to us and others. With this hope and expectation we can charge into the days, months, and hopefully years ahead that we will be able to enjoy Shirley and the good she will bring to our lives and others. We don't know how many days are in any lifetime but that shouldn't cause us to live in fear. I think we both have a very clear understanding that this world does not revolve around our child, our family, or our lives. There are people suffering and enduring trials far worse than we can even imagine. I'll end this section with this: "Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness."

Slow Going

We had a great talk with one of the "critical care" doctors today (about 10 minutes in length) and he explained Shirley's current status to us. They would love for us to leave the CICU but they just don't have the level of confidence in Shirley's heart that they would like. He said to think about it as a kind of pendulum; one side being a need for CICU care (possibly another procedure) and the other being a well functioning Shirley. He explained that she is just swinging back and forth somewhere in the middle. He was honest and said he has no idea when Shirley will be able to go home but they will do everything they can to make sure it is sooner rather than later. Shirley's leaky valve is the real concern for the team in the CICU and it will be the concern even after we are out of the CICU. What they are monitoring right now is whether or not she will present symptoms that will lead them to take action and attempt to correct her valve issues now rather than years from now. Years from now is by far the best option. During her surgery they thoroughly evaluated her truncal valve and concluded that it was, at the time, not worth the risk to attempt any kind of repair. The heart of a newborn is already extremely small (think strawberry) so imagining the precision needed to repair the valve is almost impossible. Valve replacements aren't really an option this early in life. What is more likely though is that she will need a host of drugs to help her heart to beat efficiently. Like my previous posts have said, her heart just isn't up to par. The Dr. did warn us that Shirley may need a much longer stay at SCH and that should at least be something we are aware of moving forawrd. Now, if you are thinking, "well that is typical hospital care, treat you more than you need and make tons of money on you in the process." I would caution you. Shirley is not the only child in the CICU. We met a family who arrived on Wednesday and will be discharged this weekend. Their son had OHS that same day and was closed and extubated immediately after surgery, sent to the step-down unit the next day and is now only taking the occasional Tylenol to help with pain. Their stay, from beginning to end, is likely to be less than a week. That is impressive and truly a reflection of how hard the team here is working to get children home where they belong. So, think whatever you would like. No two children are the same and I have no doubt that Shirley will leave SCH as soon as possible. 

This just in (literally), Shirley drank 17ml (an hour's worth of milk) via a bottle in about 10 minutes. That is great work for a baby that has had so little practice feeding orally.

I hope you are enjoying these posts and find them informative! I am certainly enjoying writing them! The second photo is just killing me! I can't believe how cute Shirley is!




Week Three

Three Weeks

Shirley was born three weeks ago today! I can't believe how fast these few weeks have passed. The hospital environment has been amazing believe it or not. We are here with our wonderful and beautiful daughter, what more could you possibly ask for?

Seattle Children's

Seattle Children's Hospital has been unbelievable. I heard that it was a great place but actually experiencing it has been something else entirely. I have yet to meet a single person that has not genuinely cared about Shirley's or our needs. Whether you're talking with a Dr. or janitor they all show you the same amount of respect and care. The diversity of the staff here is also very impressive. It doesn't matter where in the world they may be from you get a sense of confidence, humility, smarts, and care from every person. I'm not sure how they do their hiring but they are doing something right. It's very hard to convey the level of confidence I have in the staff here but it's off the charts. "Do you have any questions?" and "is there anything I can do for you?" are some of the most common things you hear from nurses and doctors alike. They will explain just about anything to you and hear you out on any concern you raise. So much more could be said.

Heart Function and HFNC

Shirley had another echo today because they were concerned about her overall function. She is looking great in person but poor on paper. The last echo showed that she had some decreased heart function and this echo showed that it was a little worse than a few days ago. It sets off alarms in my head but the doctors aren't overly concerned. They still haven't given her drugs to help her function but its definitely on the table. Her best option is to go back on melirinone to help her heart contract with more force. The electrophysiologist took a look at her EKG today and said that her PACs and PVCs are not concerning given her recent surgery. Its possible that her heart tissue is still just irritated from surgery and that it may be causing the premature contractions. Also treating them right now isn't even an option. Her BP won't even allow them to add the β-blocker used to treat the arrhythmias. Her diastolic pressure is on the low side because of the vasodilator she is on to help with perfusion and the β-blocker is pretty much a "chill pill" for the heart. They are going to continue monitoring Shirley in the CICU for another few days. Shirley is only receiving 2LPM at "room air" through her HFNC now! Her breathing is still looking pretty good and the hope is she will be weaned off shortly.


On a very positive note... Shirley is a breastfeeding pro! OT/PT came today and observed her breathing and how she had no mercy on her pacifier and decided that it was time to try a feeding at the breast. Shirley latched immediately and was able to pause her breathing in order to swallow perfectly. That is one of the huge hurdles for a lot of children. Shirley gets 10 minutes three times a day at the breast now! It made me so happy to see Brianna get to bond with and feed Shirley the way she always wanted to. The possibility of not breastfeeding was something Brianna had already come to terms with and now being able to is a great boost in morale.

If you can handle all 3:27 of this video you will be able to see the little one fall asleep at the very end! If she is getting tired it only take a little pass down the forehead to the tip of the nose with a finger and she will pass out 90% of the time!


Normal Baby Stuff

Dress Up

Today is a big day for Shirley! Nearly three weeks old she will be able to wear her first outfit today! You didn't miss much yesterday but her last IV was taken out of her foot and her HFNC was decreased to 4LPM. Now that her IV is out we can dress her in one of her cute snap-down outfits! Brianna has probably been dreaming of dressing her child ever since she was wearing her own snap-down onesies, so its a huge day for her. Shirley has also been wearing little pink mittens to protect her face from those razor sharpe nails she sports.

Foot Prints

We did some footprints today. Now that her feet are free of those clumsy IV's we jumped on the opportunity to do the frivolous sentimental things! Like most baby feet, Shirley's feet are cute as all get out and to have an ink stamped representation of them is even more cute! I joked before we did the stamping that it may be a more accurate representation to keep the band-aid on her foot. Shirley thought so too, I guess,  because if you look closely at the picture you can see a band-aid mark on her right heel! Having spent the whole three weeks of your child's life in an ICU, normal things become extraordinary things. When the plan of the day changes from open heart surgery and ensuring she doesn't have a stroke, to baby clothes and footprints it's a great feeling. We are moving on from truly sad and scary days to happy and fun days, though each day with Shirley has been filled with a real joy and peace no matter her condition. Joy and hope should not be overshadowed by fear and uncertainty. I want to write an entire post about joy, hope, fear, sadness and the like but its a work in progress. That, along with a post about wondering why Shirley has CHD have been brewing since day one.

Medical Jargon

Like I said earlier, Shirley was weaned to 4LPM on the HFNC and had her last IV removed yesterday. Sometimes the critical care docs will backtrack on the IV's though and want one just in case they need it. Let's hope they don't. Shirley is getting a full blood work-up today and had another echo ordered for the beginning of next week. She has been having some issues with premature ventricular contractions as well as premature atrial contractions, PAV's and PAC's respectively. These are both somewhat common for children with CHD and specifically those with large structural defects such as Shirley's. They can also be caused by an imbalance/deficiencies electrolytes. It can be difficult to pinpoint for her though because of some of the medications she is receiving. She is currently on two diuretics that make her pee quite often in order to help her fluid levels stay balanced and reduce the risk of acute pulmonary edema (this is a great link with tons of information). The diuretics would be the likely culprit for a electrolyte imbalance but its not that easy. Her labs come back with differing results, sometimes she might be low on an electrolyte or two sometimes her levels look great, yet the PVC's and PAC's remain. She is receiving breast milk which contains everything she needs as far as nutrition plus it is being fortified to help add calories so she can plump up. The moral of the story is that she is getting plenty of electrolytes with her feeds. There are also genetic things to consider concerning her electrolyte balance but the results are still out on her comprehensive screen.

Respiration Rate

Her HFNC has been weaned rather quickly and is likely the only thing keeping us in the CICU. There have been rumors of possibly shipping her out tomorrow. She is currently on 4LPM of "room air" for support and her RR is fluctuating from from about 50 to 70. Her last few x-rays have shown that her lungs are relatively dry thanks to the diuretics and the HFNC having been set to 8LPM for almost 48 hours a few days back. This is a great sign that she is at low risk for acute pulmonary edema and its likely not affecting her RR. Hopefully her breathing will continue to improve and that she will be able to make the jump to zero support shortly.

Heart Function

Her heart function is still slightly decreased but they're hopeful it will perk up. Labs will come back today with her most recent BNP levels as well as some other markers that may help them determine her cardiac function. I think her next echo is scheduled for Monday, which will be more definitive. That being said, heart function, believe it or not, is not one of the things keeping us in the CICU at this moment. Shirley has a troubled heart and to ever expect it to function like the average heart is out of the question but there is hope that it will function better than it does today.


Thank you all for the continued support. I have no doubt that this entire experience has been eased by the tremendous amount of support we have received in every way. I can't imagine what it would be like without it. There are many families here in the CICU that are not as fortunate. Please keep them in your prayers as well. We are just one family here in an ever changing manifest of patients. We are very thankful to have meet a few of the families here and exchange stories. Its been our goal to attempt to brighten the days of any person we meet by being helpful and hopeful in our interactions.

Until next time, here are some pictures from this morning. Don't worry, it's okay if you return multiple times a day to check out how cute she is or to see if she is as cute as you remembered. No one is judging you except you!


Pressing On

Breathing and Pooping

Shirley is having a pretty good day. Her HFNC was set to 7LPM this morning and then 6LPM this afternoon. Her RR has continued to hover in the 50-60s. The faster they wean her the sooner she can get to the step down unit. She has to be <4LPM for 24 hours and maintain a RR that doesn't strain her too much. Shirley is starting to make us feel more like parents these days. It used to be a real adventure to change her diaper. After surgery we had to take extra precautions to change her diaper and we still do but we have come a long way. She used to be on a medication that made her bones very soft. They even have a sign that warns people about "fragile bones." Before her PICC line came out you had to ensure that her foot was nowhere near her bottom when changing a poopy diaper. If her foot came in contact with her fecal matter you ran the risk of getting a blood infection. Those things are behind us now but a lot of the wires remain. I've changed a few diapers so it not just a learning curve! Today was the first time though that we changed her diaper, went through the whole ordeal and then 2 minutes later changed it again because she soiled it immediately after we were done. Even changing diapers can be the highlight of the day.

Heart Function

Shirley had another echo today, the first since she was taken off milrinone. In case you forgot, that was the vasodilator that also helped her heart contract. The echo wasn't the most positive but it's also not bad news. Her heart isn't contracting as well as it was when she was on milrinone which they expected, they just wanted it to be better than it is. The right side of her heart is also not up to par in the function category. These aren't things that will necessarily keep us in the CICU but they may be things that will need to be treated with drugs. If her heart is stressed beyond what it can handle and left to try and fix itself, there can be some rather negative results. They are going to give her a few days and continue to monitor her BNP levels. If her heart is up to the challenge she won't need more drugs but if there is no improvement they will add something to help her heart contract. Its a fine balance though. They don't want to do all the work for her but they also don't want her to begin to struggle. Pray that her little heart can strengthen before they have to intervene with more drugs.

Shirley keeps turning heads in the CICU, doctors and nurses are always stopping mid-sentence to remark about her cuteness or her calmness.

I'm still new to this whole blog thing but I figured out the comments and subscription thing today. There is a comment box at the end of the post as well as a link to receive e-mails when there are new posts!

I got some really great photos of Shirley being her usual happy self. Hope you enjoy.




Jail Bird

Shirley had lots of visitors today! My mom's side of the family came and met Shirley for the first time! Grandpa and Grandma Link, Aunt Bronz, and Uncle Hudson came to see her also! The one resounding theme was: she is so much smaller in person. 

Today has been a good day for this little girl. They took her PICC out that has been in her right leg for almost the whole time she has been here! They used that line for lots of drugs in the early days and because they are less worried about the need to intervene they felt confident taking it out. It is great to have another limb free of lines. Sure does make it easier to change her diaper.

She was also moved from her infant bed to a crib! She looks even smaller now that she is in a huge crib! It does kind of look like she is locked up in jail though!

She is still doing well on her HFNC at 8LPM and will probably remain there for another 24 hours. Lab results came in for BNP today and she is already down from 3300 to 1500 over the last two days! That was very exciting! Hopefully she continues to trend down. 

That's about all for today.


Shirley will tell us when.

"Shirley will tell us when." We hear that a lot! We are still in the CICU and it almost feels like we'll never leave. We may have moved closer to the exit but it was never a guarantee that we would be exiting soon. Just as I said in the last post, on paper Shirley looks like she is struggling but every time the docs look at here in the flesh they see a happy baby that doesn't appear to be struggling.

Her respiration rate has been consistently high since surgery. She takes anywhere from 80 to 100 breaths per minute (BPM) this is called, tachypnea. It would be best if her RR were between 30 to 60BPM. When you watch her chest rise and fall as she breathes you can see that it looks like hard work. Watch the video at the bottom of this post to see what her labored breathing looks like. I've talked about the high flow nasal cannula (HFNC) before and unfortunately I have to talk about it again. She has been on the HFNC since last Sunday and when she was extubated. It is supposed to help her breath a little easier by forcing air into her lungs... They often explain it by saying imagine sticking you head out the window of a car while driving down the road. Neither of those are great explanations but you get the picture. She started on a high flow of 6LPM last Sunday and was weaned all the way to 3LPM within 5 days. It never really helped her RR and today they almost turned it off entirely. The doctors had one last thing up their sleeves though. Turn the HFNC up to 8LPM and see if the added pressure would help. They didn't expect it to do anything and said they thought it would be turned off by midday. Well it worked... her RR has been in the 50's most of the day. Bad news is that you can't leave the CICU until the HFNC is set to <4LPM for at least 24 hours. Since Shirley just started responding at 8LPM its probably going to be a while before she is weaned to <4LPM. The good news is that this will help her lungs. Lots more to say but it just drags on. 

Her heart rate has come down to about 150BPM and for Shirley that is pretty good! The drug she is on to help with perfusion is allowing blood to flow to the body easier than it was before and in turn hopefully decrease the amount of leakage back into her ventricle. You learn something new here everyday and we recently learned about a hormone called B-type natriuretic peptide (BNP). When the ventricles of the heart undergo volume and pressure changes, in Shirley's case, blood leaking back into the ventricle, it synthesizes BNP. It functions like a natural vasodilator, decreasing vascular resistance. It's not really a great thing though and is often times used as a predicting marker for congestive heart failure. Don't go freaking out! Shirley isn't in heart failure territory but she has elevated levels of BNP and its worth keeping an eye on. Her concentrations are about 20 to 30x higher that the average neonate. Some of this is to be expected but its still rather high. The hope is that it will trend down over the next few weeks and be a marker for her recovery. Just have to wait and see. 

So we'll wait for Shirley to tell us when she is ready to leave the CICU. This may seem like a negative post but its really not. Shirley is doing well! She is only on two drugs right now Lasix and Captopril. That is almost nothing compared to what she was one after surgery. If Shirley were really struggling they would be intervening much more. 

Please keep Shirley in your prayers.